A Love Language of its Own How Your Mattress Can Set the Mood

Valentine’s Day is one of the most romantic holidays of the year. The lead-up to that romance is intimacy. “Intimacy is a sense of closeness and connection that transcends physical contact and may bring emotional, mental, and spiritual understanding to any relationship” (What is True Intimacy in a Relationship). Intimacy is more than physical touch, though this is a legitimate love language that does play a part. The online dictionary describes intimacy as a “close familiarity” and “a private cozy atmosphere.” Feelings of comfort while in close proximity to someone we deeply care about equals intimacy. In order to understand intimacy more, let’s talk about The 5 Love Languages and how your mattress will make a difference. 

The 5 Love Languages
According to the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman, we all possess a specific language where we feel most loved. We are also likely to show love the way we feel loved. Here the love languages that show how we communicate love: 

1. Gifts 
2. Quality time
3. Physical touch
4. Words of affirmation
5. Acts of service

This Valentine’s Day, it might be helpful to know your own love language as well as the one your significant other possesses. When we know how we tend to give and receive love, we can further our intimacy. Your mattress can play a role in that, for obvious and not so obvious reasons. How you feel and how comfortable you are ties into your level of intimacy. Touching, cuddling, laughing, and looking into each other’s eyes to have a meaningful conversation is important. A mattress that sinks in the middle will affect pulling closer or getting too close. A mattress that has cooling technology will keep us from feeling too hot or too cold. A memory foam mattress versus a mattress with springs will result in too much movement or not enough movement. Here’s another great blog to consider: How to Sleep With A Partner Who Tosses and Turns. Speaking of your mattress, did you know it can enhance all five love languages? Let’s look at how.

Gifts
Gifts are easy on Valentine’s Day. Candy, wine, and flowers might be the obvious choices, but why not focus on comfort this year? While body pillows, satin sheets, and fluffy bedding is nice, how are you and your partner sleeping these days? Remember that true intimacy begins when each person feels comfortable, both physically and emotionally. A new mattress that suits each of you might be the best place to begin. 

Quality Time
Your ideal Valentine’s Day might differ from the next person’s. For instance, you might opt to skip a big, fancy dinner out in order to cuddle up on your mattress with your sweetheart with a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you both enjoy your time together. Your mattress is a great way to create a level of intimacy. 

Physical Touch
Besides the obvious forms of physical intimacy, a candlelit massage is a great way to connect. The comfort level of the massage begins with the mattress underneath you. Does your mattress enhance intimacy and relaxation, or does it jar you and make you feel every ache and pain from the work week? We hope you love your mattress, and it will enhance that massage. If it doesn’t, a new one might be the best place to begin. Nothing ensures that you’ll give the best massage of your life like a new mattress that fits you and your partner in the right way. 

Acts of Service
Breakfast in bed is a great way to start the morning this Valentine’s Day. What better act of service than to give your partner the gift of sleeping in? Imagine the ability to sleep fifteen more minutes and wake up to fresh bacon and eggs exactly the way you like them with your coffee doctored to perfection and you don’t even need to get off your warm, comfortable mattress to consume them. Bonus to whoever makes the bed first! Saving time and energy is a brilliant way to give this Valentine’s Day.

Words of Affirmation
Have you ever woken up to a hand-written note next to your pillow listing all the ways your partner is grateful for you? This is your chance to really be poetic as you thank your loved one for all the ways he or she makes your life easier, happier, and better. Let your words be the first thing he or she sees this Valentine’s Day as you start or end your special day. 

Four Types of Intimacy
We would be remiss not to mention the four types of intimacy to consider as you plan your romantic day:

1. Physical intimacy: According to this article The Difference Between Physical Intimacy and Sexual Passion in BetterHelp.com, “Physical intimacy may be defined as sensual closeness derived through sensual or emotional physical connections.” This article does a great job of explaining the difference between sex and intimacy as well as how intimacy affects sexual passion.
2. Emotional intimacy: According to beachcitiespsych.com, Emotional Intimacy and Why it Matters in Healthy Relationships, “This is what emotional intimacy looks like—being able to share and hold space for raw, vulnerable truths with kindness, compassion and love.” So, you see from this article that emotional intimacy takes things to a whole new level.
3. Intellectual intimacy: Understanding one another in a relationship is extremely important. “Intellectual intimacy is the intellectual connection that you are able to cultivate with another individual by sharing your thinking, skills, and intellectual prowess” according to marriage.com, What is Intellectual Intimacy & Tips to Improve It.
4. Recreational intimacy: Have fun together! This is a great article from livingreframed.com that talks about How to Build Recreational Intimacy in Your Marriage. “At its core, recreational intimacy is a dynamic catalyst, fostering a strong and lasting marriage by infusing it with shared joy and adventure.”

Relax with Your Partner and Be Happy for Valentine’s Day
Check out this blog Love, Your Mattress, And Better Intimacy this Valentine’s Day. Enjoy your partner by utilizing a great mattress to stimulate comfort and higher levels of intimacy. To help you prepare, you might need to take a trip to see your local sleep experts. We want you to relax with your partner and be happy with Beautyrest Sleep Gallery. If you want to take your intimacy to the next level, you are welcome to begin by browsing these mattresses here. But the best way to determine if there’s a better fit for you and your romantic partner is to come in, have a conversation with a sleep expert, and try out a new mattress. You might be surprised the difference it makes in your comfort and intimacy. 

Resources:

Emotional Intimacy and Why it Matters in Healthy Relationships. June 11, 2024. Beachcitiespsych.com.

Chapman, Gary. June 1, 2024. 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. Amazon.com.

Johnson, Jennifer. November 18, 2023. How to Build Recreational Intimacy in Your Marriage. Livingreframed.com.

Telloian, Courtney. September 13, 2022. What is True Intimacy in a Relationship. Psychcentral.com.

Pace, Rachael. July 13, 2023. What is Intellectual Intimacy & Tips to Improve it. Marriage.com.

Purvis, Majesty, LCMHC. October 9, 2024. The Difference Between Physical Intimacy and Sexual Passion. BetterHelp.com.